If you feel unsafe, or, threatened, please call 911.

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How Do I Help A Person Who Is A Victim Of Domestic Violence?

If you know someone who may be being abused, please offer them your support. Helping a person who is being abused is not easy. Sometimes the person who is being abused may not personally recognize what is happening. They may e afraid for themselves, their children and for you, so they may rebuff your attempts to help them.

It is important to recognize that abusers generally try to isolate their victims from others. Your unfailing friendship and support may be the victim’s lifeline. Tell them that you are concerned, that they are not alone, that they do not deserve to be abused, and that help is available for them.

The following are suggestions to help:

Let the person talk. Lend an ear without judging. Tell the person that you care and are willing to listen. If they are willing to talk, listen carefully and compassionately, in a safe place. Most important, believe them. Never blame a victim for what’s happening to them or underestimate their fear of danger. Let them know that no on e deserves to be threatened, controlled or abused in any way.
Respect the person’s right to make decisions. As you listen, try to understand the many obstacles that keep a victim from getting free from the abuse. It’s very complex, so focus on supporting the victim. Be aware that the abuser may be exercising a lot of control over the victim. If may be very difficult for a victim to make choices for themselves, and their first decision may be to stay with the abuser until they can safely plan their escape. If a victim leaves and then goes back, don’t withdraw your support.
Be aware of safety concerns. Discuss these with the person and help the person consider how to be safe. Consider your own safety as well.
Guide them to community services. Many victims who found freedom from abuse describe someone they knew offering support and referring them to an advocacy group. At Option, inc., we can help a victim and their children with shelter, advocacy, support, community resources, protection orders, and other services.

If any of these questions apply you may be in an abusive relationship.  If you need to talk, call us.  Option, Inc. 397-1576