OPTION, INC.
Hobbs, NM
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Why Women Stay
Economic dependence (no money or property ownership)
Fear of greater physical danger to themselves and their children if they attempt to leave
Fear of losing custody of children
Lack of job skills
Fear of Isolation
Fear of the court process
Cultural and religious constraints
Fear of retaliation
Emotional
Fear of loneliness
Guilt about failure of marriage
Fear that mate is not able to serve alone
Belief that mate will change
Fear of making life changing decisions
Ideology
A violent mate is better than no mate at all
Failure to maintain the marriage equal failure as a person
Justify the behavior by blaming stress, alcohol/drugs, problems at work, unemployment, etc.
The abuser rarely beat me, just once in a while. During nonviolent phases mate may fulfill my dream of romantic love.